Late last night we got back from a long weekend in San Francisco. We went because my college had a "35 Years of Co-Education" event, in honor of which a group of alumnae had organized a day-long series of panels on business, education, politics, entertainment, medicine, the arts, and so on. It was cool and inspiring, I met a few people and reconnected with a few others, and I got a cool baseball cap with a pink "D" on it.
The most encouraging part of the day for me was the "The Road Less Traveled" panel, which was overpacked with bodies. Apparently there are many smart and accomplished women, ranging in ages from 25 to 55, who are still zig-zagging down their life paths, trying to find a fit that's right for them. One of the major themes that emerged from the talk was the idea that people get restless when they possess an intellectual or leadership gift that is not being used in their work. This is when it's time to create your own path, one that synthesizes all your competencies into one package.
Food for thought.
The other lesson I learned, from the panel on "Women in Entertainment":
If you're in the arts (writing, acting, singing, dancing, etc.) and you don't feel like you have no other choice, then don't do it. It's too hard to make a living.
I've heard this advice many times, but I always ignored it because it was thorny, and listening to it would require me to make a major decision I wasn't ready to make. Namely, whether or not to step away from creative writing and step toward something else.
Now that I'm older, I think it's time to listen to that advice.
I've been dragging my feet on screenwriting for years, never quite sure it was right for me. On Friday night over dinner, someone asked me, "If you got a million dollars tomorrow, would you still write screenplays?"
Let's put aside the fact that a million dollars isn't enough to retire on. Minor technicality. But he was asking me the "Office Space" question, and my answer was "No."
If I had tons of money, why would I waste my time sitting inside, writing a screenplay, when I could be out there in the world, enjoying what there is of it before we destroy it completely?
So though I'm still fine-tuning my concept of what's next, I know what's not next. All the same old things I've been avoiding doing for the last 8 years: shmoozing, handing out copies of scripts, writing more scripts, taking low-paid entertainment jobs. At the end of the day, the potential upside isn't enough for me. And the journey is not at all fun... it's just a drag that keeps me indoors when I should be outside, playing in the sun.
I'm not saying I'll never write another script or finish the things I'm sitting on. I'm just saying, I'm not out to become a career screenwriter, or even a career novelist. I'm out to become a Synthesized, Happy Human who's using all her skills to make some kind of impact on people or the environment. Part of that is going to involve more exercise and outdoor activities; part, more travel; part, writing; and part, additional education. I'm still putting together the plan.
Though I've been writing poems, fiction and journals since I was 8, and probably still will, it's never been my compulsion to become an Oscar winner. That's somebody else's dream, some family members' ideas of where I should take my skills and self-motivation and how I should parlay them into dollar signs. Not mine.
So, adios, albatross. You have been released. It's time for me to zig-zag on to the next thing.